Homeschooling Do We Really Have A Choice??

So .. Apologies for not blogging for a few weeks, I have been super stressed sorting appeals and tribunals blah blah blah.

Why oh why is our schooling system such a shambles and our local authority to match?

To be brutely honest with you I spend my life fighting this fighting that .. Why??? My children have special needs that’s why! You would think in this day and age it wouldn’t be an issue but it is. It’s still a massive issue sending children and parents into a massive spiral of upset and depression.

Whilst we try everything to help our SEND kids cope in State schools that are ill-equipped to cope with special needs and all we hear is “we don’t have the funding for your child”

Well, that’s a joke, they don’t even have enough funding even with an EHCP (Educational, Health, Care, Plan) so what hope has the children who don’t have one got at all?

So my question is… Why the bloody hell has the government not yet said this EHCP idea isn’t working and the kids are suffering for it!!! Why are the schools not making a stand telling the government that the money they are giving them isn’t satisfactory enough to offer a good enough education and that they either need to change the EHCP system or provide more funding specifically for SEND? Currently, we are in a vicious circle where the schools can’t offer support to the kids that don’t qualify and to get an EHCP is virtually impossible!

So what happens to the children in the middle… Well, they aren’t cared for, provided for or let’s face it given a shit about! after all who cares about the kids that aren’t going to improve the league tables.

So I have recently applied for an outside catchment secondary school as the ones that surround us are diabolical. Of course, we didn’t get it, on the day of finding out they didn’t give us anything on our choice list and they gave us a school which would be a round trip of up to 3 hours a day to take him and pick him up. I found myself in a tearful mush all day and couldn’t stop crying thinking what am I gonna with my poor boy.

So I started looking at homeschooling, which frightened me as I didn’t know enough about it and I thought I am not clever enough to teach my kids to be GCSE ready.

HOWEVER!!! what choice do I have right? its either that or subject him to the harsh reality of “We don’t have the funding for your son”  just like my poor 16-year-old lad faced for all of his school life. No, I have had enough of that to last me a lifetime thanks!

So Homeschooling it is then… After reading up on homeschool and all of the benefits it has, I am not sure why I was worried. However, for me, this is the right avenue but I am lucky in the fact that I work from home. Did you know that homeschooling has risen by 40% so if its risen by 40% where is all the money going that no longer is being spent on that 40% ????

Eye-opening isn’t it !!

So … Goodbye SHIT SCHOOLING SYSTEM and hello to an easier less stressful life where my kids will smile, spend time with other homeschoolers so their social life does not diminish LOL Learn the things they want to learn and they will no longer be dictated to and told who they should be, by a system that doesn’t give a crap about them.

So if you are struggling to come to terms with the treatment your child is facing? Look into HomeSchooling you might be as surprised as me.

Until the next time.

Em xxx

“These Are My Opinions, Please don’t be offended by mine and by all means have your own”

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WOW… Here Comes The Red Head!

So .. as you all know for many years, I am have been a Published Profesional Photographer. Sadly I had to give it up as my full-time job due to health reasons, c’est la vie.

However, on a positive note, this then leaves me to do all the fun types of photography that I love doing, rather than stuff you find yourself having to do for money. (whilst secretly thinking my goodness this is boring me to tears haha.)

I have written a children’s book ‘Who Are You? The Big Taboo…‘and I decided I would use my talents (as a photographer) and my beautiful daughter to create an advertisement for my book via a photoshoot. Honey-Mae agreed to this as she loves to pose and the thought of receiving lots of new clothes for the shoot clinched the deal.

So we were off, Darren and Kasper had gone off to have a Man Utd Ground Tour, for the day and Connor had gone off to do Clay Pigeon shooting.

So this left the girls to go off to the dog walking woods down the road, with many charged camera batteries and several outfits including some rather fabulous hats!

PLUS … Not forgetting a copy of my fab Children’s Book ( even if I do say so myself)

We grabbed a costa (of course) as I don’t function that early in the morning without coffee and headed over. Honey was excited and so was I, however even though my daughter is beautiful, with her red hair, blue eyes, freckles plus a fab front tooth gap that most modelling agencies die for, the reason for this is because it makes a model very different from the usual looking beautiful person. But that’s my Honey-Mae she is very unique in many ways.

To me she has always been my Honey, I have always thought she was stunning but then I am her Mum I should think that. Many people have told me over the years, “oh my goodness she is so adorable and so beautiful she should be a child model”.

She hadn’t ever really shown much interest apart from modelling for me which was a regular thing. She enjoyed being around my models and watching Crazy Creative Beauty Shoot ideas unfold.

But to be truthful, unless my children want to do something I don’t push it. I am far from the pushy parent. So I thought it’s her choice, it will most likely never happen which is fine with me …

So, to my amazement, the “It will most likely never happen” has in fact happened.

So here are the results from her first ever shoot at 9 years old in 2019, let’s just bear in mind she hasn’t modelled for a long time as I had so much time off due to illness before.

So here are the results, they are just astounding..

From these photos, she has been offered several modelling agencies.

AND SHE WANTS TO DO IT APPARENTLY !!!!! WHAT???? I did not expect it to be honest.

I love that finally, she has found something to do that she enjoys, well, for now, anyway. I think the thought of money was the final deal clinch lol

Funny that my daughter hears the words clothes and money and the deal is done. I have to state she isn’t my daughter at all… MUCH LOL.

So from this, we are now building a portfolio for her, she has a website and things are in motion… https://edurrant1.wixsite.com/honeymaedurrantrance

We have a load more photos on the website and many on the way.

My final thought for this blog – regardless of the issues Honey-Mae has, in this she is a natural which doesn’t often for her bless her. However, I am choosing not to tell the industry that Honey has ASD because I want her to have a far change without being judged before she arrives – which happens, believe me. Honey will achieve what she wants to achieve and I will be by her side when she does it.

Hope you have enjoyed this blog.

Until the next time

Emx

For now, I am Honey’s Management, until we make a decision who to join.
edurrant@icloud.com

The Show Must Go On ….

So…. hey all – hope you are all well, sorry its been ages since I posted last ..Once you have read this blog, you might understand a little as to why its taken me forever to post…

I have had a lot of decisions to make recently some good, some not so good … However, as my title reads ‘The Show Must Go On’ as you may know this is a song title from the one and only ‘Queen‘  and my goodness weren’t they right…

So many things happen in life that we don’t expect, it is one of those things where you can choose to fight and win, or you can not fight and loose.

But there, of course, is one other option – Fight your bloody hardest and still lose, previously for me this would never be an option (stay with me).

Sadly I have faced some battles like most people, but I am not a quitter in any way.

Personally, I have never understood why people give up on their dreams and why they wouldn’t fight for them.. but do you know what, the older I get I have started to realise that even if you fight your goddam hardest, sometimes you can still not achieve what you’re hoping for. Stay with me … there is a point …

This probably feels the worst type of loss – because you feel hard done by,  broken and angry as to why life has turned out this way for you.

But this is what I want you to see when you look at your situation –

AT LEAST YOU DID FIGHT AND MY GOD YOU FOUGHT FOR YOUR LIFE !!! 

Sometimes life can be tough and the unexpected can knock you off your feet.

But my advice to you would be to .. get up .. dust yourself off and crack on…

After all is there really a losing situation?

Maybe life just wasn’t meant to go down that path for you.

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Please Just Give Me The Answer!

So… hiya all sorry its been a while again, my life seems to be morphing into one thing after another recently.

Today I am going to be talking about how hard it is to get into the Author game and how its seems you write and write but yet then, once you submit your work to either literary Agents or Publisher, it feels as if you are sat forever waiting for the answer of no, to arrive by that gloomy email saying “Thanks but no thanks.

And Guys, to be honest that is about all it does say most of the time.

I think that is the hardest thing about trying to write for a living the knock backs, you have to have a thick skin, if only Agents and Publishers would give feedback on why it hasn’t hit the mark this time.

It leaves you asking yourself:

  1. Is it not current enough?
  2. Does it lack detail?
  3. Is it too long/short
  4. Does it not flow like it should?

It leaves you feeling like you have been told no then the door is just shut in your face again! You feel you can never make the corrections you need to, to succeed.

My goodness, ouch! its hard to swallow, however like I said you just pick yourself up dust yourself off and submit again, its the waiting that makes it the hardest thing for me, as you just want to move on and submit somewhere else.

If I had just five minutes for a chat with that person, they probably would and could tell me everything that is rubbish and what to do to make it right. However, you never get that opportunity.

Once I received an email, which nicely said..

Dear Emma 

We absolutely love your book, with your cute characters and fabulous moral of the story endings. A Fantastic read, for any child, however we can’t take forward your submission right now as we have filled our picture book section for this year sadly. 

However as we loved it so much we would love to receive, the same submission again on our next Children’s Submissions Date.

Kind Regards

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However so that email took six months to get to me after submission, as they take Unsolicited Manuscripts and majority don’t anymore so as you can imagine they receive thousands .

After re-submitting as requested and waiting a further six months .

I received this email.

 

Thanks for your Children’s Book Submission to **********.

Sorry it hasn’t been successful this time.

Kind Regards

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Wow … Talk about gutted! it didn’t even have my name on it. Take into consideration at this point that is a full 12 months on wards from that first hopeful submission and at six months how much they loved it and requested I resubmit.

So welcome to the hard world of writing for a living, however it doesn’t deter me I just write more and more books, I am building a phenomenal collection. I am determined to be the next J.K.Rowling, so now I hear you laughing at this point saying:

“OK Emma, that’s an unreachable goal”

However is it an unreachable goal really? Am I kidding myself? Do you know what at this point in time, I do not know what the future has in store!

All I know is that I am determined, J.K.Rowling also to was rejected many times as where many famous authors. I know I ask myself how on earth could the publishers not see the magic, ( See what I did there LOL) in the Harry Potter Books and if that is the case there is definitely hope for us all!

Thanks for reading,

Until the Next Blog

Em XX

 

The Art Of Just Not Giving A Crap!

Hey all hope your well thanks for joining me, reading my slightly controversial blog post today..

So, This is about a topic that I wish I had known when I was around the ages of 11 to 15 and life would have been much simpler ! The Art Of Just Not Giving A Crap …. So I will go on to elaborate..

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Blogger Recognition Award!

So It’s fabulous to be recognized for all of your ‘#Blogging Waffle’ as I like to call it!

As lets face it Blogging really isn’t the easiest of hobbies or jobs in the world and you have to love it as its so time-consuming, not that I am complaining of course it’s just not for the faint hearted.

 

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Ok so…   
What is the Award about ?
The Blogger Recognition Award is given to bloggers by fellow bloggers as a way to recognize and appreciate all of the hard work and talent that goes into their websites and blogs.

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No Little Violins Here Please!!!

So… I will be honest, its taken me a while sitting looking at my computer screen deciding how to start todays blog, I was considering apologising for going in a slightly different direction to my usual blog posts however I am not going to apologise. I am hoping you will all read on with a positive frame of mind and be open minded even if its just for a short space of time while reading this! So todays Blog is going to be on an very important subject to me . The Autistic Spectrum , there we go I have said it …. the dreaded words, now if this isn’t your cup of tea, I please urge you just to bare with me for a second, this isn’t a woe is me, negatively written about how my life’s so hard! Or my poor children have it so bad (little violins) kind of post…  Continue reading

Faver.. The New Kid On The Block!

 

 

So… Hey all, today I stumbled upon a very exciting company called:

 

 

Its what some might call the ‘New Kid On The Block’ in the retail and online world, it is definitely right up my street! 🙂

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The Academic V’s The Creative type! 

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So…  I don’t know about you, but I am a creative type and would spend most of my life buried into something which captures my creative attention ! I am a photographer by trade but this still isn’t enough for my creative brain to stop there I get bored unless my brain is tested with practical and creative projects.

Many times as a child I heard the words “well your not the academic one are you” this wasn’t a question however it was a statement ! As much as this didn’t please me at all, it also probably had a deeper affect on me then I ever realised growing up into my adult years.. felt that the academic things weren’t my forte.. but I have come to the conclusion that even though isn’t the case, and that I am much more academically clever then I or anyone else for that matter ever gave me credit for, I am actually fine with being the ” not the academic one” after all  !

I like being creative, I excel at being creative and I achevie at being creative! How is that a bad thing?

Who says being academic is the better way to be anyway? Nearly all my friends that weren’t classed as academic students now run their own businesses, fantastically may I add .  Continue reading