Homeschooling Do We Really Have A Choice??

So .. Apologies for not blogging for a few weeks, I have been super stressed sorting appeals and tribunals blah blah blah.

Why oh why is our schooling system such a shambles and our local authority to match?

To be brutely honest with you I spend my life fighting this fighting that .. Why??? My children have special needs that’s why! You would think in this day and age it wouldn’t be an issue but it is. It’s still a massive issue sending children and parents into a massive spiral of upset and depression.

Whilst we try everything to help our SEND kids cope in State schools that are ill-equipped to cope with special needs and all we hear is “we don’t have the funding for your child”

Well, that’s a joke, they don’t even have enough funding even with an EHCP (Educational, Health, Care, Plan) so what hope has the children who don’t have one got at all?

So my question is… Why the bloody hell has the government not yet said this EHCP idea isn’t working and the kids are suffering for it!!! Why are the schools not making a stand telling the government that the money they are giving them isn’t satisfactory enough to offer a good enough education and that they either need to change the EHCP system or provide more funding specifically for SEND? Currently, we are in a vicious circle where the schools can’t offer support to the kids that don’t qualify and to get an EHCP is virtually impossible!

So what happens to the children in the middle… Well, they aren’t cared for, provided for or let’s face it given a shit about! after all who cares about the kids that aren’t going to improve the league tables.

So I have recently applied for an outside catchment secondary school as the ones that surround us are diabolical. Of course, we didn’t get it, on the day of finding out they didn’t give us anything on our choice list and they gave us a school which would be a round trip of up to 3 hours a day to take him and pick him up. I found myself in a tearful mush all day and couldn’t stop crying thinking what am I gonna with my poor boy.

So I started looking at homeschooling, which frightened me as I didn’t know enough about it and I thought I am not clever enough to teach my kids to be GCSE ready.

HOWEVER!!! what choice do I have right? its either that or subject him to the harsh reality of “We don’t have the funding for your son”  just like my poor 16-year-old lad faced for all of his school life. No, I have had enough of that to last me a lifetime thanks!

So Homeschooling it is then… After reading up on homeschool and all of the benefits it has, I am not sure why I was worried. However, for me, this is the right avenue but I am lucky in the fact that I work from home. Did you know that homeschooling has risen by 40% so if its risen by 40% where is all the money going that no longer is being spent on that 40% ????

Eye-opening isn’t it !!

So … Goodbye SHIT SCHOOLING SYSTEM and hello to an easier less stressful life where my kids will smile, spend time with other homeschoolers so their social life does not diminish LOL Learn the things they want to learn and they will no longer be dictated to and told who they should be, by a system that doesn’t give a crap about them.

So if you are struggling to come to terms with the treatment your child is facing? Look into HomeSchooling you might be as surprised as me.

Until the next time.

Em xxx

“These Are My Opinions, Please don’t be offended by mine and by all means have your own”

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WOW… Here Comes The Red Head!

So .. as you all know for many years, I am have been a Published Profesional Photographer. Sadly I had to give it up as my full-time job due to health reasons, c’est la vie.

However, on a positive note, this then leaves me to do all the fun types of photography that I love doing, rather than stuff you find yourself having to do for money. (whilst secretly thinking my goodness this is boring me to tears haha.)

I have written a children’s book ‘Who Are You? The Big Taboo…‘and I decided I would use my talents (as a photographer) and my beautiful daughter to create an advertisement for my book via a photoshoot. Honey-Mae agreed to this as she loves to pose and the thought of receiving lots of new clothes for the shoot clinched the deal.

So we were off, Darren and Kasper had gone off to have a Man Utd Ground Tour, for the day and Connor had gone off to do Clay Pigeon shooting.

So this left the girls to go off to the dog walking woods down the road, with many charged camera batteries and several outfits including some rather fabulous hats!

PLUS … Not forgetting a copy of my fab Children’s Book ( even if I do say so myself)

We grabbed a costa (of course) as I don’t function that early in the morning without coffee and headed over. Honey was excited and so was I, however even though my daughter is beautiful, with her red hair, blue eyes, freckles plus a fab front tooth gap that most modelling agencies die for, the reason for this is because it makes a model very different from the usual looking beautiful person. But that’s my Honey-Mae she is very unique in many ways.

To me she has always been my Honey, I have always thought she was stunning but then I am her Mum I should think that. Many people have told me over the years, “oh my goodness she is so adorable and so beautiful she should be a child model”.

She hadn’t ever really shown much interest apart from modelling for me which was a regular thing. She enjoyed being around my models and watching Crazy Creative Beauty Shoot ideas unfold.

But to be truthful, unless my children want to do something I don’t push it. I am far from the pushy parent. So I thought it’s her choice, it will most likely never happen which is fine with me …

So, to my amazement, the “It will most likely never happen” has in fact happened.

So here are the results from her first ever shoot at 9 years old in 2019, let’s just bear in mind she hasn’t modelled for a long time as I had so much time off due to illness before.

So here are the results, they are just astounding..

From these photos, she has been offered several modelling agencies.

AND SHE WANTS TO DO IT APPARENTLY !!!!! WHAT???? I did not expect it to be honest.

I love that finally, she has found something to do that she enjoys, well, for now, anyway. I think the thought of money was the final deal clinch lol

Funny that my daughter hears the words clothes and money and the deal is done. I have to state she isn’t my daughter at all… MUCH LOL.

So from this, we are now building a portfolio for her, she has a website and things are in motion… https://edurrant1.wixsite.com/honeymaedurrantrance

We have a load more photos on the website and many on the way.

My final thought for this blog – regardless of the issues Honey-Mae has, in this she is a natural which doesn’t often for her bless her. However, I am choosing not to tell the industry that Honey has ASD because I want her to have a far change without being judged before she arrives – which happens, believe me. Honey will achieve what she wants to achieve and I will be by her side when she does it.

Hope you have enjoyed this blog.

Until the next time

Emx

For now, I am Honey’s Management, until we make a decision who to join.
edurrant@icloud.com

This Celebrity is Outrageous!

So… Good Morning everyone or evening depending on when you are reading this. So as your here, this would suggest that there are only two reasons that you have clicked on and are reading this blog…

Now my two questions, are the following did you click on my blog because:

  1. The title made you look because you wanted to know, exactly who the celebrity is that is the most outrageous?
  2. Or you are fabulous and just read every blog I ever write haha.
Sadly I think I can guess which one it is!

But if it is the latter, then I thank you very much. LOL

Why are we so obsessed with the celebrity status? Why does it matter?

This is when some of you will drop off and disappear as you are disappointed that so far you haven’t found out instantly who it is haha. Am I right?

No this a serious question because I am not that fussed myself and would like an answer from people who differ from me, as I am sure not everyone has the same answer anyway.

I am not the type to read OK! Magazine to see how many divorces Katie Price has had, or who has had their heart broken for the umpteen time and had it splashed on a magazine for all to see. Sadly whilst they are sitting crying behind closed doors as WE ALL WOULD BE.

Why do so many want this gossip to be at the forefront of their entertainment?

The thought of someone in pain whoever they are is shocking to me, I hate it and quite frankly it makes me sad.

Why isn’t it to these people who read it? Or worse write it for that matter? I appreciate being a writer myself your main purpose is you write to sell, but what is wrong with us, enjoying someone else’s pain.

I am starting to consider Sigmund Freud had it right when he believed all humans were dark and that confronting one’s dark side in our world is a must if we are to all transcend it.

So another question I put to you whilst we are discussing the dark side… Is really knowing about which Celebrity is the most Outrageous? Honestly that important to your life? Will it make you feel happier, richer or will that information increase your IQ?

Will it help you achieve those career goals you have longed for?

Or is it just a load of old bollocks that really deep down none of us really give a flying crap about and it has no true impact on our lives for the best in anyway whatsoever.

Is it solely a method to prove to ourselves that actually their fabulous lives that we see broadcasted via TV or via Magazine photo shoots, where their legs are amplified to look as if a 5 ft 2″ regardless of any gender is made to look 6 ft 5″. Also, we can’t forget the huge boobs and tiny waists or the muscles of a Dreamboy.

Are we trying to convince ourselves that actually past it all, their lives can be just as shit as ours and we aren’t all nobody failures? Is laughing at their failures and tears making us feel better about ourselves?

Personally, this is just my opinion so feel free not to take it- if it does, if this really does make you feel better then… Seriously you need to get out more!!!! stop reading this shit that is presented to you via these idiots, who let’s face it ALSO … write crap to make you feel worse, not better because remember these are the ones who also write about the ‘Mega cribs’ that you can’t afford even though you work three jobs whilst looking after a family. Or they ‘Photoshop the long legs perfect bodies’ even though you still can’t look like that even though around three jobs you have and the family, you kill yourself in the gym many hours a week!

My advice to you is … STOP GIVING A SHIT!instead make your own life better with positivity and then you won’t even know who is even a celebrity let alone who is the most outrageous.

Hope you enjoyed this blog …

Until the next time

Emxxxxx

These are my opinions and my opinions only, please don’t be offended as you don’t have to run your life by them ūüôā

The Show Must Go On ….

So…. hey¬†all – hope you are all well, sorry its been ages since I posted last ..Once you have read this blog, you might understand a little as to why its taken me forever to post…

I have had a lot of decisions to make recently some good, some not so good … However, as my title reads ‘The Show Must Go On’ as you may know this is a song title from the one and only ‘Queen‘¬† and my goodness weren’t they right…

So many things happen in life that we don’t expect, it is one of those things where you can choose to fight and win, or you can not fight and loose.

But there, of course, is one other option РFight your bloody hardest and still lose, previously for me this would never be an option (stay with me).

Sadly I have faced some battles like most people, but I am not a quitter in any way.

Personally, I have never understood why people give up on their dreams and why they wouldn’t fight for them.. but do you know what, the older I get I have started to realise that even if you fight your goddam hardest, sometimes you can still not achieve what you’re hoping for. Stay with me … there is a point …

This probably feels the worst type of loss Рbecause you feel hard done by,  broken and angry as to why life has turned out this way for you.

But this is what I want you to see when you look at your situation –

AT LEAST YOU DID FIGHT AND MY GOD YOU FOUGHT FOR YOUR LIFE !!! 

Sometimes life can be tough and the unexpected can knock you off your feet.

But my advice to you would be to .. get up .. dust yourself off and crack on…

After all is there really a losing situation?

Maybe life just wasn’t meant to go down that path for you.

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Please Just Give Me The Answer!

So… hiya all sorry its been a while again, my life seems to be morphing into one thing after another recently.

Today I am going to be talking about how hard it is to get into the Author game and how its seems you write and write but yet then, once you submit your work to either literary Agents or Publisher, it feels as if you are sat forever waiting for the answer of no, to arrive by that gloomy email saying “Thanks but no thanks.

And Guys, to be honest that is about all it does say most of the time.

I think that is the hardest thing about trying to write for a living the knock backs, you have to have a thick skin, if only Agents and Publishers would give feedback on why it hasn’t hit the mark this time.

It leaves you asking yourself:

  1. Is it not current enough?
  2. Does it lack detail?
  3. Is it too long/short
  4. Does it not flow like it should?

It leaves you feeling like you have been told no then the door is just shut in your face again! You feel you can never make the corrections you need to, to succeed.

My goodness, ouch! its hard to swallow, however like I said you just pick yourself up dust yourself off and submit again, its the waiting that makes it the hardest thing for me, as you just want to move on and submit somewhere else.

If I had just five minutes for a chat with that person, they probably would and could tell me everything that is rubbish and what to do to make it right. However, you never get that opportunity.

Once I received an email, which nicely said..

Dear Emma 

We absolutely love your book, with your cute characters and fabulous moral of the story endings. A Fantastic read, for any child, however we can’t take forward your submission right now as we have filled our picture book section for this year sadly.¬†

However as we loved it so much we would love to receive, the same submission again on our next Children’s Submissions Date.

Kind Regards

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However so that email took six months to get to me after submission, as they take Unsolicited Manuscripts and majority don’t anymore so as you can imagine they receive thousands .

After re-submitting as requested and waiting a further six months .

I received this email.

 

Thanks for your Children’s Book Submission to **********.

Sorry it hasn’t been successful this time.

Kind Regards

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Wow … Talk about gutted! it didn’t even have my name on it. Take into consideration¬†at this point that is a full 12 months on wards from that first hopeful submission and at six months how much they loved it and requested I resubmit.

So welcome to the hard world of writing for a living, however it doesn’t deter me I just write more and more books, I am building a phenomenal collection. I am determined to be the next J.K.Rowling, so now I hear you laughing at this point saying:

“OK Emma, that’s an unreachable goal”

However is it an unreachable goal really? Am I kidding myself? Do you know what at this point in time, I do not know what the future has in store!

All I know is that I am determined, J.K.Rowling also to was rejected many times as where many famous authors. I know I ask myself how on earth could the publishers not see the magic, ( See what I did there LOL) in the Harry Potter Books and if that is the case there is definitely hope for us all!

Thanks for reading,

Until the Next Blog

Em XX

 

How A Creative Person Can Make Your Business! 

So hey all sorry it’s been a few weeks again since I last posted, the summer holidays are killing me..

However back for todays blog about How and Creative Person Can Make Your Business a success.. Now I know you’re all probably rolling your eyes and saying..

“God this girl, has got a serious love for all those who are creative”¬†to be honest you are all probably right, I myself as you probably are aware by now, am also a creative person, this is how I can say that a creative person can make your business a success and this why ..

Running your business is great if you’re a sensible type, if you have your head screwed on plus are great with the number/stats side of the business, this is definitely a really important trait to have to keep your business afloat. However having someones creative input can take you to another level in your industry.

I personally feel you need two types of people in a business..

  1. The Level Head ( Mainly the Academic Type of Person)
  2. The Dreamer ( The Creative, Eccentric Type)

The amount of successful businesses, who I know that run this way is unbelievable. The one that pushes forward bringing new exciting things into the business but always running alongside the person that pulls their head out of the clouds when its going to far.

If I was to ask you two questions, if you can answer them with a yes, then you know your answer…

  1. Are you frustrated that you are running out of ideas to take your business to the next level? 
  2. Has your business ground to an uninspiring halt, where thinking out the box would be beneficial ?  

Answer … Yes & Yes…??¬†

Ok…. So we come back to the title of my blog, I promise you if you are missing something in your business and can’t decide what it is, then employ and eccentric, creative type and your business will be made into the type of business you have always dreamed of.

 

When the two worlds collide The Academic and The Creative it can create beautiful things… ¬†working together can be fantastic and I assure you will be surprised at what you can achieve.

Please give it a try and let me know how you get on …

Until the next blog, go and create business harmony.

Em x

 

 

 

***** These are my opinions and my opinions only, I am not a professional business coach  ******

 

What Inspires Me…

So… Lately I have¬†been asked by my readers..

“What inspires me to write my blogs ?”

“Why I have become the type of Blogger I have?”

Emma Durrant - Durrant's  Divulging Lifestyle Blogger

In my thinking pose…..LOL

Pause for thought ... The answer to that question is quite simple I suppose, that I have naturally fallen¬† into this! I don’t always write on subject matters that some bloggers in this genre write about, sometimes wander off into my own little version of a Lifestyle Blogger but I kind of feel that’s¬†ok! Often I will say to new bloggers-

“Be Your Own Person”

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Are you Materialistic?- I think that’s a Yes!

 

 

So …. Have you ever realised how in our¬†life, the material things¬†we own¬†becomes a Must rather than a¬†Privilege and something you can’t live without ?

I¬† in conversations in the past about money,¬†forever heard myself saying …

“I am certainly NOT Materialistic – I¬† have never¬†been or never would be! If I won the lottery ( Millions of Pounds) I would still shop in cheap places, getting value for money

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How To… Bring Your Game Face!

So…. I just want you to stop what your doing for one moment and have a think about how life is for you ..

  • Are you fed up with feeling like your not getting on in the world?
  • Your job is less then impressive?
  • Your love life needs a kick up the backside ?
  • Or you look around and suddenly realise your friends are¬†achieving much more then you¬†?

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